via Brooklyn Buttah
Dominique of Brooklyn Buttah gets introspective on the fight between love of other and love of self we go through on a daily basis. She goes down the path of the female perspective so I felt the need to provide the male point of view.
Is there time for love and building your career?
Vague answer I know (sue me – nah don’t because I’m broke). I grew up watching OGs grind hard to develop other people with nothing to show for it. This made me focus on myself FIRST before I explored the notion of adding another person to my journey. I have met an array of women that I was not in the frame of mind to treat the way they needed to be treated. This takes me back to my previous answer of “it depends” because life is all about timing. You can meet the right person at the wrong time even though it usually feels like we meet the wrong person at the right time which deters us from trying.
You need to find a partner that fits where you are trying to go in life. If you want to be a CEO, you will probably want a partner with a similar mindset or has a similar work ethic to you. It is hard to focus on creating an amazing career when you are distracted from a partner. Also being in love doesn’t pay the bills (although it feels good as hell to feel). Once you have overcome the rigors of school (bleh) and finding the first couple of jobs after college, you can try juggling both sides.
Anyway, that was my short take on it. To read Dominique’s click the Read More link below.