(via Brooklyn Buttah)
Before we dive into this article, I have to give a shout out to damnPOPS who is one of our favorite writers online. Great piece so enjoy!
As of late, it has been brought to my attention that sometimes a woman may not “be ready” to be with a guy that they like.
As a guy, I must have simply been ignorant to this fact. You see, I have always seen and heard women be critical of men who were never ready for relationships. I have been one of those guys as well as probably 91% of other guys. It’s rarely talked about (I think) when women aren’t ready for a guy that they like. As a matter of fact, there are a couple women that I interviewed that didn’t directly give the person they were seeing a reason as to why things didn’t progress.
That also was just a spoiler alert.
This topic fascinated me and I wanted to get the words straight from a reputable source. I decided to speak to six women. All of these ladies are ladies that I know personally and I’m appreciative of their transparency. I wanted to know just how prevalent women not being ready for certain guys was. I think I was able to get a pretty good idea here. Check it out.
Have you ever met a man that you liked but felt you weren’t ready to date?
Lissa: Yes I have
Rosi: Sort of
Gina: Kind of
Why weren’t you ready?
Joanna: I wasn’t ready because I felt like I would’ve been tied down and he expected far much more than what I had to offer at the time, I called that my “thotty” phase. I didn’t want to be tied down but he wanted to give me the world. I wasn’t mature nor ready to be submissive to a guy…even if he was giving me the world.
Ty: I was in my 20’s and I felt like I wasn’t on his level because he was in his 30’s. He had been divorced and was established and I was not at the time.
Lissa: I felt like I wasn’t ready because he was so mature and sure of what he wanted. I knew I wasn’t done with my “wild child” days and I wanted to keep exploring and having fun. He was definitely the one that got away.
Rosi: The only situation that I can somewhat relate is the time I started falling for a close friend of mine. He was literally like my best male friend and we became really close. I really really liked him but fell back because I didn’t want to lose the friendship because I was still young. I wasn’t interested in being in love, or getting my heart broken. Those are things that really made me take a step back.
Gina: I think I felt that way when I met my current boyfriend. I was 22 right out of school and he’s almost 10 years older than me. I was still in my college mindset and he was already living on his own and totally independent. Being with someone who was so mature and experienced seemed intimidating.
I initially tried to fight it! I told him all sorts of excuses to avoid spending any real time with him because I was so scared. But he was persistent. That was when I realized that men make time for that they want. Women seem to function more out of obligation. But when a guy wants something, he’ll do what it takes to have it.
Shanel: I wasn’t ready because I was young and trying to have fun. I still wanted to party and hang with friends regularly. He also was a few years older than me and he was ready to settle down. I was still in college and just wasn’t in the right space to commit. Not to mention, I wasn’t sure if he was the caliber of man that I was ready for. I wasn’t sure if I was worth the treatment he was willing to give.